Memorial Donations

If you wish to make a contribution in memory of Don McIntosh, memorial donations may be sent to:

The Don McIntosh Memorial Fund at La Habra United Methodist Church,which will support the grounds maintenance to which Don devoted so much attention:

Don McIntosh Memorial Fund:
La Habra United Methodist Church
31 North Euclid Ave
La Habra, CA 90631

or to the:

Orange County Alzheimer’s Association,
2515  McCabe Way
Irvine, CA 92614


Our family thanks you for all the kindness, condolences, prayers and generosity sent in Don’s memory.



Don McIntosh: Memorial Video

Here is the memorial video played at Don’s service today.

Thank you to all who attended and everyone who sent their prayers and thoughts our way.  The outpouring of love and wonderful memories of Don means so very much to our entire family.  Thank you!



Note: the video, played at the service, was scored to Louie Armstrong’s “What a Wonderful World” but I’m not able to post it online, with that track.



Obituary in O.C. Register for Donald S. McIntosh

Don’s obituary was printed in today’s Orange County Register and Long Beach Tribune.  I overlooked the spelling of his mom’s maiden name, which is also Don’s middle name: Spalding. It is misspelled in the obituary as Spaulding. My apologies to genealogists of the Spalding and McIntosh clans!   Don’s father is Henry Wight McIntosh (from the Isle of Wight) and his mother is Jessie Spalding McIntosh.

You can view the obituary in the Sunday Register or online here:

O.C. Register Obituary for Donald S. McIntosh

The final line was borrowed from a beautiful message that was added to the CONDOLENCES page by Danette Brown.  Barbara liked her comment so much,  that she asked me to include it in Don’s obituary.  (Thank you, Danette!)

Don McIntosh of La Habra Heights, CA

Celebrating the Life of Don McIntosh

Don McIntosh of La Habra Heights, CAPlease join us as we celebrate a life well lived.

Memorial service for Donald S. McIntosh will take place at:

2:00 p.m. on Saturday December 6, 2014

La Habra United Methodist Church

631 N. Euclid La Habra, CA 90631

Reception following the service.



He will be missed.

Don was a man of few words, but anyone who knew him could tell that he was so proud of his family–his two sons and his 5 grandchildren.  He didn’t need to say so, it was apparent in his actions.  I observed this first had more times that I can count.  Don spent countless hours helping his family.

He loved to garden and would come to our house to help Craig with planting and trimming.  He was so knowledgeable about plants and when I look at my yard now I see all the love he put into helping make our house a home.  One very special tree in our yard came from a limb that Don had cut off of one of his trees.  He found it weeks later on the ground sprouting root–he brought it to our house and he and Craig planted it.  It is now one of the largest trees in our yard.  He had a green thumb that’s for sure.

My three children loved him dearly.  He was a tall man, which could have made him intimidating to the little ones, but instead they looked at him as a gentle giant (as others have mentioned).  He would spend time with them in the yard, play ball with them, go to their school functions, attend sporting events, take them fishing, read a book to them, help in their classroom (with a pottery lesson), pick them up from school (Connor during his kindergarten year), and take a true interest in anything they were doing.  When the kids saw him they would always want a hug from their “Big Poppa”  He, of course, never minded this at all.

According to Connor, his fondest memory with Poppa was “when he took me fishing”.  He was such a patient man.  He took the time to help untangle the hook and line and made sure that Connor was successful in his endeavors.

Kate said she loved it when her Big Poppa “would come watch me ride Beau during my lessons at the ranch”.  She liked that he took interest in what she was doing and seemed to like to watch how she improved week after week.

Cameron, just like his brother, had a very special member of his fan club.  Don loved sports and spent many an afternoon on the soccer field.  He also attended school events, by special invitation.   Cameron remembers “Poppa came to watch my soccer games and would come to my school for Senior Friends Day and would take me to lunch afterwards.”

I am attaching photos of Connor (now 20) on Poppa’s knee and Kate (now 16) and Cameron (now 14) with Nana and Poppa at Senior Friends Day.

I will miss my father-in-law dearly.  He was such a kind-hearted, intelligent, gently spoken, generous, and talented man.


Lori Lee McIntosh

Connor on Poppa's knee

Kate with Nana and Poppa

Cameron with Nana and Poppa

Video: How to Post to Don’s Site

Wondering how to add your memories of Don to this site?  You can either post a simple message to the Condolences Page as a guest.  Or, if you would like to post a full story/article or photo, this video tutorial  demonstrates how to register and post to the blog.

Problems or questions?  Feel free to send me an e-mail.    I’ll be happy to help post your photo or story to Don’s website.

Casey and Big Poppa

Don always had a special connection with his first grandson, Casey.  I think the two of them shared several endearing traits, including their economy of words. ♥   Don  was a quiet man but not in an isolated way; he was friendly and easy to talk to.  He was also an interested and patient listener; something that’s required if you want to understand what Casey (a man of few words) has to say.

Don was a teacher for over 30 years, so I suppose that could explain his ability to connect with Casey.  But more than that, he was a big man with an even bigger heart.  He had a quiet kindness about him that is hard to describe, but I’ll bet you hear many people speak of it when remembering Don.

Even in the past few years, when Alzheimer’s put a wall up that made it difficult to communicate with Don,  I noticed that he always responded to Casey!  Once, when Scott and I were sitting with him at dinner, I wasn’t sure he knew who we were.  Casey walked up to the table.  Don’s face lit up, he grasped Casey’s hand and said “Hey, Casey! How ya doing?”  It was a little bit stunning, because I don’t think I had heard Don speak in nearly a year!  His affection for Casey even broke through the fog of Alzheimer’s.

Here are a few photos of Casey with his Big Poppa. I will be adding more to this little gallery as I come across more photos.

Don McIntosh

In Memory of Don McIntosh

Don McIntosh passed away Tuesday, November 11th, 2014.  His family has set up this website to celebrate his life and to share memories of this gentle giant of a man.

We invite you to share memories of Don here on his memorial site. You can do that by signing in  or registering as a new user, and creating a “new post.”  Add anything you want to your posts:  stories, photos, links, poems or condolences. (You can also embed a hosted video).  If you prefer to post as a guest, you can simply add a comment to any post or page.  We know it will mean so much to everyone who loved him, especially Barbara, Scott and Craig.

If you would like to send a message directly to Barbara, you may use the form on the Contact Page.

Thank you for visiting his site.  Please check back as the site takes shape and hopefully reflects the spirit of this kind and gentle man.

With Love,
The McIntosh Family